If you have clicked on this page, most probably you are wanting something more from your life right now…

Perhaps you are going through a change in your circumstances (health, relationship, work…) that is making you question whether you are on the right path.

Everything seemed to be going well. However, something has changed…

You may be feeling confused, somewhat restless, tired, or even angry… you can’t really pin-point what it is.

Perhaps this has been bubbling away for some time, and you may or may not have been aware of this, but it is coming to the surface right now…

What you once knew your life to be, is no longer that. And you are unsure on how to go about it or even where to start making sense of it all.

You have been so busy with your life, that you haven’t had the time to think what it is you really want. Suddenly, you are now having to confront who you are and what you want moving forward.

It is like you are living a life that is no longer yours. You have worked so hard for what you have, you have navigated the waves of life holding on to all that you have, powering through, you have people who depend on you, and you don’t want to let them down, so you continue moving forward so as not to rock the boat, because that is the right thing to do… Is that correct?

When you look around, everybody appears to be enjoying life but you feel there is something missing in yours, you don’t know what, but something is not quite right…

You feel you should be enjoying the life that you have worked so hard to achieve. You tell yourself to be grateful for all you have and that you are lucky to be where you are, but there is still something missing…

You may feel guilty, about the way you are feeling, as you appear to have the “perfect” life and people look up to you.

It almost feels like your life is on pause and you are going through the motions not really taking part in it.

You may have asked family, friends and perhaps you may have sought some professional help in the hope this may give you an answer. The advice you receive, may have worked for a while but deep down you still have that feeling that there is something missing… you don’t know what yet… but you know there must be something else… a purpose to your life.

In an attempt to find what is missing:

You may seek excitement, the adrenaline rush to make you feel alive! This will fill that sense of emptiness that comes when you are missing something, albeit temporarily. However, at some point that emptiness, that feeling that something is missing, creeps up on you once again, each time this happens it is a little stronger, until one day like a big wave it hits you and completely engulfs you.

You may seek solitude and withdraw completely from your current life, too tired to battle through and let everything fall apart – relationships, family, work.

You could also do a mix of seeking excitement and solitude – going on binges of one and then the other…

All of this can go on for some time, with its highs and lows… just like being on a rollercoaster ride.

So, what are you going to do?

Are you going to continue on the rollercoaster ride? Or are you going to get off and take time to work out what it is that is missing and how you can go about getting back to enjoying your life?

The decision is yours and only yours to make and must feel right to you.

I believe that you can do anything you set out to achieve, whatever your current circumstances are right now.

So when you feel ready, and you decide that it is time to take a good look at what is important to you so that you can move forward in life, please use the contact form or email me directly (vanessa@vanessavajana.com).

As a qualified coach, I will be there to challenge, support and empower you to be who you want to be and to define how you want to move forward with your life.

This discovery voyage, will take courage, strength, and a willingness to be vulnerable, but it will be worthwhile in the end.

I look forward to speaking with you soon!

Remember… be kind to yourself and others always.


Vanessa listened to what I had to say and, just by her doing that, I was able to look inside myself closely and find answers I needed.

She pointed me in the right direction. I was able to take action and break a circle: I took some steps forward that will, hopefully, bring me closer to achieve my goal.

I found her professional but, at the same time, caring and approachable. She speaks two languages!

I would definitively recommned her to anyone feeling somewhat “stuck” in their life.

-Lorena, UK

LM 09 July 2019

Vanessa’s direct but encouraging enquiries into the roots of my habitual defence mechanisms enabled me to see that other views are possible.

The support, exercises and feedback Vanessa provided enabled my “habitual” thought processes to change. This has resulted in better relationships with and understanding of others due to a shift in perceptions.

I have learnt that by practicing being good to myself, it becomes a habit and a way of being.  When I have felt sad, depressed and lonely I have realised that it doesn’t have to be this way and that I can put into practice what I have learnt. This practice is life changing.

-Clare, UK

CS 25 October 2020

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